It seems like everywhere you look, girls are tearing down other girls. It starts early on in life and only gets worse as the years go on — unless you change your attitude and decide to support other women. In a world where the latest celebrity catfight is front-page news, how can women learn to foster healthy relationships?
It doesn’t matter if you’re a film producer like Heather Parry or a schoolteacher in your hometown: Being who you are is the best person that you can be. Nobody else is better or worse than you are, and once you start living with that mentality you realize that everyone is on an equal playing field. When you come across people who don’t share that mentality, be kind to them anyway. Their ignorance is clouding their vision, not yours.
Stop Critiquing Other Women
So many females feel the need to put on a different personality or act especially vicious around other women. Why? If you notice yourself being especially critical or competitive with a female friend, take a step back and ask yourself what’s driving this unhealthy behavior. If you love and support your friend, you need to stop putting her down.
If you feel that judgy little voice in your head, instantly replace negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, if you look at your girlfriend and start to think of how revealing her shirt is, instead focus on how wonderful her laugh is and what a loyal friend she is. Train your mind to think differently. It won’t happen overnight, but you’ll feel so much freer!
Celebrate Successes and Achievements
There is a time and a place for the spotlight to be on you, but sometimes that spotlight is shining on another woman. Instead of being jealous that your coworker got engaged over the weekend, toast with her and be excited for her. It’s her turn to be the star of the show, and you get to be a supporting member of her cast.
These two words seem so simple, but they encompass one of the deepest parts of female friendships. There’s security in knowing that you have someone who is always in your corner and willing to have tissues and ice cream ready for you at 2:30 in the morning. Being a supportive, caring friend who listens to her girlfriends is an essential part of nurturing healthy relationships.
Rise above the negative media and the stereotype that all women are catty and mean. Live your life as a woman who loves and supports her female friends and family, not a little girl who tears them down.